browsing along rss feeds this morn [yes, i use rss, save me alot of hassle since im browsing blogs from office. cant have those fancy designs on my broswer, can i?], and i came across her post regarding this and i must say, i actually disagree with mr hobo here. first, let me clarify, im not one of those love evangelist who relishes the chance to fall in love, and cherish the love. i dont think of love as taking things to great heights and talking about it in celebrating hues of happiness and gooey stickiness [quoted from minishorts]. in fact, i barely believe in love. i dont care for valentines. i dont see it as any particular big deal.
however, i do believe this... love exists for others. some people have it, some people dont. im the latter, void of love, ending up as bitter and cold, grouchy and grumpy and perhaps all of the other seven dwarves. but i just saw a major dose of irony in the post. lets begin dissecting that post bit by bit.

Women are like spoiled children. They are self-focused, insecure and irrational. They crave drama and games. They demand constant attention, reassurance, and above all, power in relationships. And, like children, who ceaselessly push limits to see just how much they can get away with from their parents, women relentlessly test men.

frankly, i can barely see a difference between both species. men are somethings even more spoilt. ive seen ppl merajuk over the tiniest of tiny matters, just to pick a fight. self focused.... egoistic, machismo.. arent we all? men, above all. insecure, maybe not. irrational, oh hell yea. guys can say the stupidest thingys, the most illogical crap, and the worst lies when pushed to a corner. ive known ppl from all aspects giving me literally rubbish for reasons, to get out of something..  attention and reassurance, hahhaha, maybe mr hobo hangs out with those im macho, im ego, im cool type of ppl. or maybe i just hang out with pansies. but guys DO demand attention. a whole lot of them. and which guy wouldnt want to be in control of a relationship? saying this, hobo simply states hes not willing to concede his power in a relationship to women. double standards. bah. relentlessly test men... hmmm... like what? guys who suddenly stop calling for a day to see if the girl can take it? then two. then three. testing her patience. likewise when hes mixing with other girls. seeing if he can get her jealous. guys do that too...

and now, we dissect the checklist

• Canceling or changing plans at the last minute.

this one, is where guys are slightly different. its called double standards. guys will never ffk girls. guys will always ffk guys. thats the general rule of thumb

• Not returning phone calls (even though she's interested in you).

cant say ive never done that before.

• Finding fault with your clothes, hair, car, etc. and pressuring you to change them.

HAH! u see, another double standard case. in front of the girl, he keeps quiet. behind her back, with his friends, etc... the common 'aiyo, i wish she wore skirts more often' and 'if only she was..... ' seems to be a nightly topic conversation

• Pouting when you want to spend time with your buddies.

so, guys out there, do u actually mind when ur gf have a girls nite out? most guys i know will be constantly smsing or calling her to find out what shes doin, where she is.. bla bla

• Bringing up the dreaded "Where do you think this relationship is going?" question.

he has a point. guys just wanna have sex. we're horny.

• Acting bratty, bitchy, demanding, dramatic, picky, or manipulative to see if you will put with it.

so hobo, i assume uve never seen guys get pms before. scarier than girls sometimes.

• Testing to see how nice you are (will you back down or change your behavior to suit her?).

so u dont expect presents from ur gf for special days. nor do u expect her to follow whatever u say?

• Expecting you to ask for permission before doing any "guy stuff."

some ppl i know, wanna know the exact location of their gf at any given minute.

• Blatantly flirting with other men in front of you.

so u dont have any other girl friends in this world after being a couple?

• Accusing you of doing things you didn't do.

guys are paranoid too, you know

• Threatening to leave or end the relationship if she doesn't get her way.

yea, if guys dont get their way, they just end it without threats and expects her to come back beggin

• Blaming you when you call her on her behavior.

dont understand, so shall not comment

• Making you jump through all sorts of hoops.

same la.. tak faham

• Asking "no-win situation" questions ("Does this dress make me look fat?").

thats THE question. but guys and their ego these days, u think they wont ask alike?

• Playing hard-to-get -- pretending she's not interested in you when she really is, and then expecting you to keep pursuing her.

yea, guys simply go.. 'nola, not interested in her' and next thing u know, WHAM. guys dont do hard-to-get, they do dont-want-to-get mindgames.

• Not answering questions directly/expecting you to be a mind reader and then blaming you when you're not.

so u think a girl knows what u r thinking all the time?

• Making you beg for it. (you know what lah kan …)

another good point. guys are horny, and girls.. are.. less horny..



in the end, guys and girls, their the same, their akin. its human nature to put your partners to whatever 'tests' there are. i admit something, this post is degrading to guys. and makes me sound like a girl. but still, ive seen enough of both sides, to say im disillusioned by this all. relationships tests both sides. and if u find a couple that can manage it, good for them. i havent.

derek
1:49 PM

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